Module 6: Connection with ourselves and with our children

In this session we will cover: Overview of 3 steps home approach How this is relevant to this module Questions that you can ask at each stage Indications you may want to use this approach Perhaps we have identified we want to connect more deeply with ourselves. How do we go about that? Whether we want to go on a healing journey because we are triggered, want to be able to welcome all our experiences back into our own compassionate embrace, or want to develop our own sense of secure attachment this is an opportunity to bring all the disparate parts of ourselves home. We explore what the three steps are, when this approach might be appropriate and how we can use the prompts with ourselves, our coachees, and our children. Connection and secure attachment break historical patterns and free us to fully be our loving and compassionate selves.

There is a short video for this session that outlines the assessment criteria requirements for the Association for Coaching. You can fill in this document as you go, or at the end of the programme - whichever is most helpful for you. You must: Make it simple and easy to find the evidence that you have met the assessment criteria Meet every assessment criteria Provide at least one piece of evidence for each one, although 2-3 confirms your knowledge and understanding Let me know if you have any questions!

Today we are exploring: Stories we tell ourselves How stories can limit our experiences Narrative approach to coaching Internal family systems – parts theory How to rewrite our parenting story Impact this has on the stories in our family Here is a video on David Drake talking about narrative coaching (5 mins): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gfTnpfqkDPE Here is a video on Internal Family Systems (5 mins): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6X45Y74blSg 

In this session we cover: How identity impacts our behaviour 6 human needs Habits and the things we are used to doing Retraining our muscles Using theories of learning and change to support changes in our behaviour We explore how we can make changes in our inner world, to our identity by exploring our narrative and different parts of ourselves, which will naturally influence our behaviour. We can also start in the external world, by changing our behaviour, which in turn will influence our identity.

In this session we cover: Why we have waited until now to talk about supporting parents to develop their connection with their child Child’s love language Dual listening Child’s learning styles and preferences Child’s values and beliefs What children need – make sense and matter Creative ways to connect Links to 3 steps home coaching Here is the link to the 5 love languages quiz:  https://5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/love-language 

There is no content for this week. Helen and I are updating paperwork and will share that when it is ready. Let us know if you have any questions and I look forward to seeing you at the lives.