Module 5: Power dynamics, beliefs and what leads to behaviour

In this session we cover: Clean coaching principles, approach and how to use it in your practice The history of the model Examples of questions The benefits relating to this module Importance of metaphor How you can use it in your practice Here is an example of clean language being used in practice: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vwBIGSLR16I  This article explores how a parent used Clean language with their child: https://cleanlanguagetraining.com/clean-language-basics/how-clean-language-helped-save-my-relationship-with-my-daughter/

In this session we are exploring: Concepts of power and authority and power dynamics including difference Power and authority that influence families Power dynamics that are passed on and within families Cultural considerations working with diverse coachees Links to CLEAN coaching How you can use it in your practice If this does bring up something you would like to discuss please do feel free to arrange a time to have a chat with me, or do seek other support such as counselling or co-coaching if it feels appropriate. It is helpful to reflect on the Process Pathway when thinking about how the coach raises awareness of power dynamics with the coachee, and Ladder of Inference which explores how our our beliefs link with our actions.

In this session we are exploring: How beliefs and values are formed Impact on attitudes and behaviours Patterns that run through families Common beliefs about parenting when parents start coaching Impact on parenting Links to CLEAN coaching How you can use this in your practice There is a values beliefs and attitudes group workshop that gives an example of one way you can explore your values. This could be done on your own or in a group. The Coactive Coaching values clarification has several different ways of exploring values. You do not have to do all of these. You can choose the one that feels appropriate for you. You are welcome to do more if you wish to, as an extension activity.  I have included the Emotional Triad as a reminder about a quick way of supporting a client to change their state by exploring their current physiology, use of language and focus. Here is a link to an article about cognitive dissonance, the discomfort a person feels when their behaviour does not align with their values and beliefs. This might be something we could discuss further in the live session: https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/326738#effects   Please note: The link to the video in the handout and Introduction to the Work by Byron Katie are optional and not a requirement for this session. If you have time and are interested they are intended as extension resources. Question: Would it work to remake the judging worksheet so that it is done from the parent / child perspective? Perhaps it could be worth experimenting with this to see if it is helpful for other parents?

In this session we will be covering: What is triggered Risk factors in getting triggered What can happen and what to look out for Managing our emotional response: what to do immediately, what to do in the longer term It’s never too late to repair: messy and real is ok Links to CLEAN coaching Please note: If talking about triggers brings up something for you feel free to reach out to Charlie, a friend or a trusted professional such as a counsellor in order to discuss and process anything that has been activated within you.